Confidence & Self-Esteem

Build Confidence & Positive Self-Belief


Is a lack of personal confidence or low self-esteem holding you back from living the way you would like to?  Do you ever feel you are not as good as other people?  If so, these sessions might be just what you’re looking for.

Whether you would like more inner confidence to face social situations, improved confidence to do your best in exams or job interviews, greater self-confidence within relationships, or perhaps an overall more positive experience in life generally, my confidence building sessions enable you to overcome the limiting beliefs and resulting anxiety that can hold you back from being your best.

As you may be aware, a lack of confidence can often be the consequence of having faced difficult circumstances in the past, that have left you feeling unsure of yourself or your abilities.  Unfortunately, this can manifest in such a way that you then doubt yourself and your abilities, often tending to believe that other people will always be better than you.  

But in reality this is not true at all…  It is a perception that has been unwittingly created in your mind as a result of challenging experiences in the past. And the good news is, that this negative perception can be changed more easily than you might think…

So my sessions enable you to connect with an inner strength and wisdom within you that helps you to gain a positive and renewed perspective on yourself and your life.  In the process, you are able to overcome and release negative emotional patterns from your past, that have prevented you from being your best up until now.

You will also be able to identify and change the limiting beliefs that have been creating your problem, into healthier and more positive beliefs.  This means that you are effectively creating a new path for yourself to move forward on, experiencing the positive differences in wonderful ways.  

As they say, life is what you make it and, as with so many things, it often comes down to how you feel about yourself.  So my Confidence Building sessions help you to connect to your inner wisdom, inner strengths and the positive beliefs that you need to feel good about yourself and your life. 

This lasting confidence helps you to achieve life-changing benefits on many new levels, giving you the inner confidence you need to move forward feeling happier and more in control of you, your life – and your future.

Confidence issues can be treated within a course of 3 Confidence Building sessions (£333) or within individual sessions as required.

A concentrated “Confidence Breakthrough Session” of up to 4 hours duration is also available if urgency or distance is a consideration (please see here for more information).  (£325)

“Jenny’s work with me has flipped my (at times) hypnotherapy-welwyn-garden-city-hertfordshire-believe-in-youcrippling lack of confidence, low self esteem and self-doubt to the opposite ends of the scale. Her work has helped me improve my outlook generally…. and I experience a happier and much more positive approach to everyday life.   Jenny has a real positive energy, combined with compassion, understanding and a natural disposition to treat people – I would highly recommend her to anyone.”   Jane L, London SW19

“I visited Jenny to see what help could be offered to get over a previous relationship, and to rebuild some self-esteem and confidence.  I was completely blown away by the results… I was so amazed by Jenny’s help, I just felt so much better…. I finally feel I can make the best of my life.  Jenny is such a warm and friendly person that I felt completely at ease and  totally relaxed during my sessions.  It immediately comes across that she genuinely cares and wants to help you make things better.”  Mr R, South West London

Sessions are available in London & Welwyn Garden City, Hertfordshire 

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Helping Shy Children To Become Confident

As an NLP4Kids Practitioner, one of the most rewarding aspects of my work is helping a child to overcome what is often perceived as “shyness”, and in the process enabling them to discover and connect with the confidence and happiness within themselves.

In reality I have found that shyness in a child is actually another way of saying that they lack confidence in themselves (whether it be socially or in terms of their abilities). A shy child – or one who is lacking in confidence – is naturally going to find it hard to excel or be their best, for the main reason that they are also likely to be battling with self-doubt or negative belief-patterns.

It can be helpful to know that within all of us, children and adults alike, there is an infinite capacity for happiness, confidence, self-belief and motivation – which we often don’t realise is there. When we find ourselves “lacking” in these positive qualities it is likely to be because, unwittingly, we are simply blocking our own connection to them – with negative thoughts and beliefs.

And whether we realise it or not, when we allow ourselves to entertain negative thoughts and beliefs, the effect can be compared to us administering a toxic substance to ourselves daily, which undermines and obstructs us in all that we want to do.

So one of the first things I do is to chat informally to the child to put them at ease, and find out a little about them and what makes them tick. I am also looking to see what kind of things might make them anxious, why and when. More often than not, it is about helping the child to feel better about themselves, because on some level, I find that most shy children have an underlying perception about themselves that they are not as good as others.

Unfortunately, one of the problems with having a negative (unhelpful) belief is that, because of the way the mind works, it can often produce a vicious circle of negative “self-fulfilling prophecy” in reality. For instance, if a child forms the belief that they are not as good as others, or that others will always be better than them, the resulting effect for most children is that they will simply not even bother to put in the effort or try to do their best, holding themselves back and “protecting” themselves from the disappointment that they feel is likely to be inevitable. This can often manifest itself as a lack of motivation or even negative behaviours, and is entirely self-defeating. Hence, unwittingly, they are contributing to making the negative belief that they hold to become a reality.

So helping a shy child to feel better about themselves can often involve identifying and changing any unhelpful beliefs, and helping them to “re-frame” the way they see themselves and others.

Amongst many wonderful things, NLP4Kids provides the means of helping children to understand themselves, as well being able to identify and change negative thought or belief-patterns that are creating a problem. Helping a “shy” child to be able to choose and create more helpful and healthier beliefs means the world has already just changed for that child in immeasurably positive and helpful ways.

In my view, using NLP with children is a master-stroke because it provides fun and exciting techniques that enables the child to feel almost as if they are playing, and yet as a result they find they are feeling better, and are more confident and in control of themselves going forward.

One of the most exciting things for any child to learn is that they have more control over themselves and the way they feel than they previously realised. Helping a shy child learn how to connect with their inner confidence in just a few moments is quite often life-changing there and then!

In fact, it was in one of these instances that I helped a shy child, held back up until then by his diagnosis of “dyslexia”, to be able to read aloud from an official press release (it was all we had in the clinic room!) in it’s entirety and at normal speed. His mother’s expression (and mine) will stay with me for a long time to come. When a child connects with their inner confidence, infinite possibilities really can open up for them, which they are helped to recognise and experience for themselves.

Once a child can recognise how their thoughts affect their feelings (and vice versa) it opens the way for them to be able to feel in control, and to be able to create more on-going happiness and confidence for themselves.

When a child recognises that there is more than just one way for them to be, this in itself is liberating in the extreme. Helping them realise that they also have a choice in how they think, feel and react in any moment is empowering and is a priceless resource that will continue to serve them well in the future.

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